For some, staying home with the kiddos is an easy decision. For others, being a working mom is the only choice. I wanted to tell you why I’m a working mom to help you decide what’s right for you.
Writing about why I am a working mom was inspired by two things.
First, my writing bestie wrote a reflective piece on why she’s a SAHM. You can read that here.
The second reason is in response to the NPR podcast, 'Mommy, You Can Do That': Navigating Work-Life Balance Thousands Of Miles From Home, featuring two climate scientists and mothers, Zoe Courville and Lora Koenig.
Both women spend weeks away from their kids in Antartica to further their research.
What got me the most about the podcast was that Corville discusses an unsolicited remark by a fellow scientist about how he appreciated his wife staying home with the kids because they really need their mother.
His comment made her wonder if he was ever asked the same question by one of his peers.
So, both of these things got me thinking about why I’m a working mom instead of a SAHM.
Luckily, I do have a choice (I know this isn’t true for a lot of working parents). Although I think my husband prefers that I earn money because it alleviates some of the pressure.
Honestly, I truly believe my workload is more than his, even though we both have jobs. I know we have some amazing dads that read our blog, so I don’t want to point fingers, but moms usually do the bulk of the household duties, even when they are a working parent too.
And I must mention that I grew up with a single-father who wore many hats, so I know that this isn't always true.
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I like to think I’m an example for my kids as a working mom. Not that being a SAHM isn’t a good role model. Taking care of children is the hardest “job” I’ve ever had, so I hope that one-day parenthood will finally be admired, other than on Mother’s Day.But all of this being said, my situation isn’t ideal. Most of the time, I’m so tired I could cry. There are days that my kids do cry for thirty minutes straight after I pick them up from school.
But on the other hand, the time I do squeeze in, I enjoy more now than when I stayed home. I make the most of our weekends with quality family time and fun activities. Plus, I’m still their favorite person (little trailing shadows).
The question of being a working mom or SAHM is a personal one, made up of many different factors. But the top three are finances, desire, and pragmatism.
There are days that I wish I was a SAHM and then there’s a long weekend, and I can’t wait to get back to work.
But, perhaps the strongest reason for me is that going to work helps me retain a sense of myself; otherwise, I might become lost in the wilds of parenthood.
I might lose the part that used to be “me” before becoming “we.” The part that’s just me.
Whatever you choose, I’m guessing it will be the right one for your family.
And, yes, for you.
Let me know if you’re a SAHM or Working Mom or Dad and why in the comments below. I would love to hear from you.
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