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How to Conquer Your Writing Insecurity

This is a guest post by Shawna Clapper

As a mother, a blogger, and someone who fell in love with writing back in high school; you'd think it'd be no problem for me to write for someone else. But, it is. Have you also been overwhelmed by your writing insecurities?


Like, you know you can write, you write for yourself all the time because it helps you relax and escape while your children are sleeping. You get lost in the process and joy of writing; that's how much you enjoy it.

But, when it comes to writing a guest post, or for a paid opportunity; you feel completely stuck.

You think that you can't possibly write anything good enough to be displayed on another person’s blog, or get paid to write.

Sure, your own blog is one thing, you determine what's on that, and you do the best you can. But, submitting for someone else; well, it's a struggle.

But, it shouldn't be.

We're all people; the blog you're submitting a post for, it's another human being reading it over. That's not too scary, right?

If it still sounds scary to have your writing judged by someone else, remember the practical tips on how to conquer your writing insecurity.

Get to Know Their Audience

Every blog, website, magazine, or pretty much anything else people read has a certain audience, or at least a target audience.

If you have your own blog, you have your own specific audience; you may know them well, or maybe you don't, but you have them.

When writing for another site you're going to be dealing with a whole new audience you’ll need to please, help, or entertain. Get to know them by reading over comments on blog posts or going on the site's social media channels.

Maybe try scanning the comments or questions to see if there's a need you can fill that hasn't been covered, or that you can give your own twist on.

What Do They Struggle With?

See if you can find the pain points of their audience.

What does their audience seem to struggle with, or need help with, that you have struggled with in the past?

If you can answer that question, then you're pretty much golden as far as coming up with a post to write goes.

Give them solutions that you have come up with to overcome the struggle yourself, or maybe even do some research and cite where you found the information. Using actual research, with scientific or social evidence, will help you feel more confident and that you're bringing more valuable information into your post.

Bringing up your personal experience with the struggle and how you overcame it could be a great way to help others, as well. But, you don't want to be too personal; you have to remember that this is not your audience and they don't know you. So, maybe weave your story in with the solutions to their struggles.

Know the Blogger’s Voice

On the other hand, if the blogger running the site uses a lot of personal stories, sharing your story with only your solution may be acceptable.

Before you start writing a guest post or post for another site, you should know the main voice of the blog. But, be careful not to copy it.

Once someone writes for a long enough time, they start to develop their own voice. Sometimes it will be their voice, or the way they write that brings people to their blog to read.

Be aware of this; you wouldn't want to use inappropriate language on a Christian blog, or write in a completely formal way when the owner of the blog doesn't. It won't engage their readers and may do more harm than good, for both of you.

Understand You're Not Alone

One thing you should always keep in mind is that you're not alone.

There have been other bloggers like you, myself included, that have feared guest posting or submitting a post for a paid opportunity.

I can tell you from experience that the first few times will be the hardest, especially with not thinking your writing is good enough. Don’t let your writing insecurities win!

Let me tell you, the first time you do have your writing accepted; you'll be so excited! All of the fear, anxiety, and waiting patiently to hear back from the blogger, will have been worth it. And the next time you submit won't be as scary.

It may be more difficult for those of us who have been rejected before. That doesn't mean we should stop trying.

Don't Give Up

When one site or blogger doesn't accept your post, you're not alone. And, you have two choices from there; either improve your writing, try again, or give up.

Always opt for improving and trying again. Who knows how far you can go if you don't give up!

Plus, we're parents, we face rejection all the time.

If You Raise Kids, You Can Do This!

Seriously, raising children, your own children, is one of the hardest careers out there. There's so many demands and your little bosses try to guilt trip you for everything. And, watch out if they get upset, especially in public.

As a parent you have to keep these little beings alive, somewhat happy and entertained. At times, they can be the hardest people to please.

So, if you can raise children and know that they are watching you 24/7 and that you're their biggest example; you can submit a guest post or even better, submit a pitch for a paid opportunity.

Submitting that post isn't as difficult as getting your two year old to stop throwing a tantrum in public or getting your picky eater to eat their veggies.

In fact, compared to raising kids, submitting a post is quite simple. The hardest part may actually be finding the time to write it.

I hope my tips help you overcome your writing insecurities. You’ve got this!

P.S. If grammar is one of the things causing your writing insecurity, Pen and Parent has a solution. We’ve designed the Blogger Grammar Refresher Course to boost your writing confidence. Once you’ve brushed up on the rules you forgot from school, you’ll be cranking out letters to editors in no time.

If you are pretty confident about your grammar but you’d like to figure out how to get paid for your blog posts, we also offer a comprehensive online writing course.

P.P.S. If a class isn’t in the cards for you, check out our FREE WRITING CHALLENGE: Write 3K in 3 Days. We’ll send you inspirational emails with writing prompts to help you get a bunch of words on the page.

How have you conquered your writing insecurities? We’d love to hear about it in the comments.

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Shawna Clapper is a healthy mom blogger at Stress Less Be Healthy and stay at home mom to her two little girls. She earned her degree in Psychology and has always had a passion for writing. Now a self proclaimed health nut, she loves to share all  she learns and knows; from blogging and dealing with stress, to raising children and eating well.  You can follow her on Pinterest or Twitter.

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